Stigma and Misconceptions

Clarifying the Difference Between Age Regression and DDLG

Age regression (often shortened to agere) is a non-sexual psychological state where an individual reverts to a younger mindset, often as a coping mechanism for stress, trauma, or mental health challenges. It can be comforting, therapeutic, and entirely safe-for-work (SFW). However, due to its similarities in language and expression, some people assume that agere is inherently sexual. especially when it is confused with dynamics like DDLG (Daddy Dom/Little Girl), which do involve consensual adult roleplay and are typically not SFW.

It's important to respectfully distinguish the two: while both involve a form of "regression" or age-based dynamics, agere is a therapeutic or emotional experience, whereas DDLG is a kink-based, consensual dynamic between adults. Their intentions, boundaries, and contexts are very different, even if they may share surface-level similarities in terminology or behavior.

Consent is important in both practices. In SFW age regression, particularly when done around others or with a caregiver, mutual understanding and emotional safety are essential. This is especially important when regression is related to trauma or mental health, as it should not be unexpectedly introduced to someone who isn't prepared to support it.

For more on how to approach these topics safely and responsibly, including how to introduce agere to a trusted person, please refer to the Safety Page on this website.

"Age Regression Is Just Immaturity or Attention-Seeking."

One of the most common misconceptions about agere is that it's an excuse for childish behavior or a way to gain attention. For many, age regression is not a conscious decision to "act childish" and is rather a natural and involuntary response to stress, anxiety, trauma, or overwhelming emotions. It can offer a sense of safety during times when the individual feels emotionally vulnerable.

"Only People with Serious Mental Health Issues Regress."

Another stigmatizing belief is that only people with severe trauma or mental illness engage in age regression. While agere can be a helpful coping tool for those dealing with mental health, it is not limited to that. People of all mental health backgrounds may use regression to find comfort, reconnect with their inner child, or unwind after a long day. The experience can be both spontaneous and voluntary, and its purpose ranges from emotional healing to simple self-soothing. Reducing agere to a "symptom" of mental illness only perpetuates stigma around both regression and mental health.

"Age Regression Is Inappropriate for Adults."

There's a widespread belief that age regression is inherently "weird" or inappropriate for adults. This assumption stems largely from cultural discomfort with vulnerability and emotional expression, especially when it challenges norms of behavior. Emotional healing and comfort shouldn't have an age limit. Adults are allowed and deserve to feel safe, nurtured, and playful, even if that means temporarily stepping into a younger mindset. Just as adults are encouraged to embrace their "inner child" through hobbies, nostalgic movies, or creative expression, agere offers another path to access those feelings. It doesn't make someone less mature, capable, or responsible in other aspects of life.

Sources

"Age Regression." Consent Culture, Consent Culture Community, https://consentculture.community/glossary/age-regression.